It has been a few weeks since finding out the devastating news about our sweet boy. Since then, Daniel and I had a lot of time to think, grieve, and move forward with what God has for us. While it was only a few months, there are many insights I wish I had known before diving into the IVF journey.
If you are considering IVF treatment or want to better understand what things to prepare for, check out these insights below:
There will be people who will not understand your choice for IVF Treatment.
Some people will not be happy about your decision because they are yearning for children of their own.
There will be times people use hurtful language, without knowing it.
IVF Support Groups do exist in your community. Get yourself into these groups as soon as possible.
Most people do not share their experiences and struggles with infertility in the church.
1 in 5 couples experience infertility, and most do it alone.
There are hundreds of IVF terms and acronyms, educate yourself with them.
If your fertility doctors offer additional resources such as brochures or videos, be sure to read/watch them.
Be mindful that your team might not be easy to contact. If your fertility team has a portal, use it wisely. Construct messages that are "to the point."
As hopeful and faithful as you may be, being infertile is not your fault. And this does not make you any less of a woman.*
Here are also a few reminders while on the IVF journey. I pray if you and your spouse are moving toward IVF treatment, these Scriptures will help you as much as they helped us.
God has promised He will not ever leave you. (Deuteronomy 31:6)
God is good and upright. (Psalm 25:8)
God speaks to us through the Bible. (Hebrews 4:12)
God creates all things. (Colossians 1:16)
God has given us other believers to walk alongside us. (I Thessalonians 5:14)
God is all-powerful. (Psalm 62:11)
God showed His love toward us by sending His only Son to die for us. (1John 4:9)
God is always faithful; past, present, and in the future. (James 1:17)
God's character does not change. (Numbers 23:19)
Last but certainly not least, as hopeful and faithful as you may be, being infertile is not your fault. And this does not make you any less of a woman!
Peace be with you,
The Jackson Family